
Our school had a nice awards ceremony on the last day of school, and it was great to see the children rewarded for their hard work. Unfortunately, for my son, it was one of those "hard life lessons" that children have to learn sometimes.
My son Andrew LOVES History; it is something he and my husband have in common. In fact, my husband is his History teacher. There is some fierce competition among 3 boys in my son's class for "top grades" on the tests and quizzes in that class. For the most part, my son who was a 5th grader made the highest grades (and believe me, having dad as a teacher had nothing to do with it) than the other 2 boys, who were both 6th graders. Because of that, Andrew was SURE he would get the "Top History Grade" certificate for his combined 5th/6th grade class.
Well, not only were there tests and quizzes, there were also historical essays to quote and a "Nation Notebook" that was to be completed, which their regular, classroom teacher graded. My son excitedly chose his latest favorite country of interest, Greece as subject for his Nation Notebook. Because my uncle is Greek, I have been in Greece twice and had lots of pictures, ticket stubs, brochures from various sights, etc. for him to use. WELL, little did we know, his teacher considered the fact that we had these things an "unfair advantage" over the other kids whose parents had NOT been to the countries they were doing their project on, and therefore, had to get all their pictures and information off the internet and from encyclopedias, which we, of course, had to do some as well. But in any case, she didn't count some of my photographs my son used towards completion of the notebook - and he was also heavily counted off on grammar and sentence structure, which are definitely NOT his strong suits - and though I edited his notebook a little, I knew that it wasn't right for me to change much of his original work.
AND SO....my son did NOT receive the highest grade in History for his class - and the certificate went to another boy who is generally always beating my son at most everything - such as sports, board games, etc. (he's also almost 2 years older than Andrew). Anyway, it is a continual source of frustration for Andrew - and to have the certificate given to this boy after expecting to receive it was a huge blow for my guy.
As a parent, it is so hard to see your child's heart broken. Andrew is 10 years old now - and he tried very hard not to cry when he saw me after school was dismissed after the awards ceremony, yet he couldn't help but get teary. He was so, so disappointed - and truthfully, so was I. Right now, he is in a phase in school where though he not failing, he struggles a lot in Language/Grammar/Spelling - which he was still able to breeze through until about 4th grade. The only subject he really LIKES is History, even though he is pretty good at Math and also in his Bible class.
SO, what do you tell your kids without revealing your own frustration and disappointment over a situation like this?? I admit I had to say a prayer about it that I'd present things positively and without disagreeing with the teacher's grading process (this was a HISTORY project not a GRAMMAR project, but I do see the point of having good grammar always) or downplaying the other boy's hard work.
Thankfully, sometimes hugs work best - and a simple, "I know you're disappointed." will soothe a sad kid. I reminded him that he is among the youngest of his class - and next year, he'll be among the OLDER of the combined 5th and 6th grade class. I reminded him that GOD and his mom know that he did really do HIS BEST -and even if that wasn't good enough for a top grade, that was the most important thing to us! I told him that having a good attitude and being willing to learn from disappointment would help him in the long run to face other frustrating situations that will definitely occur over and over.
I wish childhood could retain its innocence; I wish growing up didn't have to hurt sometimes; I wish expectations could always be met. Since life isn't perfect, I'm glad we have a perfect God we can always rely on, cry out to, and ask for guidance as we figure out how to live pleasing to Him, no matter what happens.







Would you believe the following picture!? And would you believe that this pregnancy test is MINE!!!??? 


southwest, the interstate had been shut down because a semi-tracker-trailer was blown over by the high wind. A tornado was spotted to the area to the direct South of us as well (on the other side of Ft. Wood, for those who know the area). Trees were down, and electric poles too. We weren't without electricity but for an hour at school, thankfully.